How to "Pay Yourself" First

"Don't ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive." - Howard Thurman

In my work as a financial advisor, I frequently address questions such as, "How much money do I need to retire?", or "Am I saving enough to stop working?" These questions often mask the true concerns: "Will I have the time to pursue my passions?" or "Can I recreate my life?"

Well being comes from a sense of meaning in our lives.

Studies show that emotional and physical well being comes from a sense of meaning in our lives. It is all too easy to live filled with the worries and responsibilities of getting through each day. In order to connect to a deeper sense of meaning, notice the activities that make time pass quickly, in a good way, and that you eagerly devote your energy towards. This can help you connect with your sense of purpose.

The adage "pay yourself first", often used with personal finances, should also be used with personal time, The writer, Oliver Burkeman, states "If there is something you are passionate about, to writing a novel to launching your business to spending more time with your kids, the only way to make it happen is to do a bit of it now, no matter how many urgent tasks are pressing in."

We need the support and encouragement of others.

Of course, passion alone won't move us consistently toward our goals. We need the support and encouragement of others to help us push through the tough days. According to Angela Ducksworth (the world's expert on grit ), curiosity, empathy, gratitude and generosity all contribute to the strength of character required to set and pursue our goals.